If You Love Him, Set Him Free

"If you love him, set him free. If he comes back to you, then you're meant to be."

Easy to say. Hard to do. Right? That is normally what people say about testing the strength of a relationship. Even I found this cliche to be such a terrible thing to do because we girls/women (depending on age and level of maturity) have lots of fears in our own relationships.

We fear we might lose the person we love if we let go of them. We fear that in just a little span of time that we have given them their freedom, they might find someone else, someone better.. But what we forgot to understand, is what really letting go means..

Letting go does not mean we are giving that person the right to date or find someone else, it does not mean we are giving them the right to have their lives without us being a part of it. What really letting go means is that we are giving them the freedom to grow up..to mature as an individual.. to be a full grown up.. and to realize what their worth is, and what's your worth to them. I have read a book from Michelle McKinney Hammond, entitled, "What To Do Until Love Finds You" and she pointed out in one of her views that if you love some, set him free; if people are meant to be in our lives, they will return of their own volition.

   

Freedom is an important ingredient in a relationship's success. Not only it gives us the time for ourselves, but it also makes us realize and understand the things in our lives that, sometimes, we alone could only do. Loving someone doesn't necessarily mean giving all your time to that person, making him the center of our life and doing everything according to what we have planned. If he really is into you and he really does love you, then for sure he's the man who knows his limitations from the freedom that you gave him and a true man would not risk losing such a wonderful woman like you who has the heart of a true woman who knows how to give her man his time for himself, a time that would help the both of you grow in love.